Feeling Human – Letting Go

Sometimes you just need to have a good cry. I feel like I have been avoiding it forever now. Everything just builds and builds and builds.

I have been feeling a lot of stress on my plate these days. Sometimes life is like that. We lose ourselves. We fall out of balance and it is hard to get back on track. It is also the middle of winter here in Canada, so I am giving myself a break.

Life has been stressful. Or shall I say, I have been carrying around stress and worry. With Serafina’s autism, homeschooling and keeping up with the house, I sometimes feel like I can lose my perspective. That is why I miss this space. I miss reflecting and being me. When life starts to seem stressful, to take the time to sit and reflect and connect with like-minded souls, remember what is important, and to get back on track again.

I’ve been feeling a lot of judgement these days about why we homeschool and have been under a lot of pressure to consider stopping homeschooling the girls now that Serafina has been diagnosed with autism. It is the closest that I have actually come to considering putting them into public school, filling my mind with worry and feeling the fear of, what if I can’t do it all?

Forget that. I already know that I can’t. But I can try. I can give my best and I can hold a heart full of gratitude for what we do accomplish and what my girls are learning every day even if we aren’t technically “doing school.” When my mind starts to go there, I remember why we started this homschool journey in the first place. It wasn’t about being like school, it was about being free.

Even if my girls aren’t learning what they would be learning in a school setting, they are still learning all day long and have time to pursue other interests too, like music, reading, videography, and making up plays. We also love to cook and bake together and to get outside as much as we can. While I have been too busy with Serafina some days to teach Autumn as I would like to, she has been teaching herself how to play piano by watching youtube videos. Both girls have been obsessed with the Frozen movie these days and Autumn is determined to learn to play the songs from the movie on the piano. She impresses everyone with her imagination, determination, and talent. People who hear her play ask if she is taking lessons and I tell them that she taught herself. She amazes us all!

This afternoon I took some time to cry. I needed that. I feel like for years I have held onto so much. Things from my childhood, hurtful words and actions said and done, old relationship pains, Serafina’s autism and the fears I have about her life, plus the fear of raising my children to be all that they can be and protect them from some of the things in the world without isolating them from it. I have been afraid for a while to let out my emotions and admit them to myself. Not the deep ones anyway. I’ve been pretty good at running from them and pretending that they don’t exist (especially when I am not writing), and I know that is unhealthy.

I am a writer. I love to put thoughts into words and to share those words with whoever cares to read them. It feels so good to be human and to share that humanness. I love connecting on that human level.

These days I have been thinking of ways that I can put myself back together and be the full human that I am. Writing is one of those things for me, as is painting, photography, recipes, teaching, sharing, crafting, and reading. Anything that keeps me creative and expressive. It is no good to hide our creative gifts from the world, stay in isolation and live in fear. We all go there from time to time, but it is no good to stay there.

I have my spirit in tune with the messages being sent to me and for months Autumn and Kesa have continually been singing, “Let It Go,” from the movie Frozen. I get the message loud and clear, especially since I hear it from the moment they awake, til the moment they fall asleep about a hundred times during my day. “Let it go, let it go, can’t hold it back anymore.”

Yes, I know, but how?

I think that emotional release for me this afternoon of laying down and crying into my pillow was it. At least I hope it was. I haven’t heard the “Let It Go” song sung around here today yet. I am hoping that the message has hit home for me. “Let it go.” Letting go does not necessarily mean something outer, I think it more often has an inner meaning for us to let go of something that we are holding onto in our consciousness and our emotions, such as worry, anger, fear, guilt, or shame. All of those do nothing to benefit us and keep us healthy.

So today I am letting go. I am shaking off that fear, anxiety, guilt, and shame about myself and about being the perfect mother and wife. I am accepting where I am at in this moment, reflecting on my life with gratitude, and reminding myself that everything happens for a reason and that there are no mistakes in life. I remind myself once again to live in the moment and to take life one day, one moment at a time. I know that I am the artist, life is my canvas and that a bright and beautiful future awaits me and my family, even with autism as a part of it.

I also started a blog about our journey with Serafina’s autism here, for those who may be interested. I don’t have much time to sit and blog these days, but I do want to find more time to share with the world and hopefully connect to other mothers and families who have autism as a part of their life.

Much Love,

Tiffany

17 thoughts on “Feeling Human – Letting Go

  1. Wow. This couldn’t have come in a more timely fashion. You put into words how I’ve been feeling. We shared the same day to cry and “let it go”. Love to you, Tiffany!

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    • ❤ Glad to hear it Gina! Not that you were having a rough day, but to know that you can feel that humanness and connection through my writing. I knew I was inspired to write for a reason.

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    • Hi. Tiffany, I posted a semi-long post here the other day, is it still waiting to be approved? ( I think I might have used a wrong email on the post I’m talking about.)

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  2. I am not a parent. I am not a writer. I am certainly not perfect. But I am a someone who treasures many of the words you write and still too, sometimes, needs to cry. Take your moments, treasure them, and know there is a universe of support for all of your choices made out of love.

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  3. I agree with what you have written in the post about letting go the things we hold on to so tightly. I love the song ‘Let it go’ too. Aarohi picked up this song from her friends and kept singing this song for months. After we saw the movie I felt that the song is appropriate for anyone who goes into the deeper meaning of this song. I sing this song with her now 🙂

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  4. Tiffany dearest.

    I saw part of this in my inbox and knew I had to come and find out what was up with you since I’ve been so out of touch. I am one who is isolating and it’s not easy to “Let it Go” – You know the song by the Beatles I’m sure but when my father was taking his last breaths, the music playing softly in the background was that very song. A side note – when my mother was in that same way, last breaths, the song “Here Comes the Sun” was playing.

    The Beatles have always had such a huge impact on my life, all my life and continues to do so. I’m glad to hear it’s being carried out in a new way in the movie Frozen which I have not seen.

    You know I wish all you lovely girlies to keep on, no matter what. Cry alot, it’s good for you, or for me anyway.

    Your cookbook by the way was greatly appreciated when I gave it to my son, daughter in law and my grandson. I am so glad I bought it! I’m seriously considering buying another after I check to see if you have any more.

    Much love and peace for you and your family. Love is a commitment is what my parents used to say; even made a plaque.

    Love always, all ways.

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  5. “I am accepting where I am at in this moment, reflecting on my life with gratitude, and reminding myself that everything happens for a reason and that there are no mistakes in life. I remind myself once again to live in the moment and to take life one day, one moment at a time.”
    You said it all right there! Really. If and when we veer off the path of the truth(what you wrote above) read, write, talk, walk, play, do whatever it takes to come back to that truth. We all have those days when it feels like the weight of the world is on our shoulders, and it’s easy to get lost in it, our mind telling us “you’re not doing (good)enough”, “look at what’s wrong”, nevermind these false stories, it’s our ego, go back to the truth, that we are always being guided by a positive and all loving source. ❤

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  6. Tiffany, I stumbled upon your website a year or so ago, in my search for changing my diet and in the process, I have been let into your home, a glance here and there of your wonderful family. In a very small way, I feel that I know you. Even though I have not struggled with the same issues that are causing you pain, I sympathize with your situation. From what I have observed, I see a warm and loving person with great talent and ingenuity. Capable of great love for your family.I agree that the difficulties of life are sometimes out or our control, and your reliance on God or your friends is not a weakness. The earth was created with a variety of people and situations, each of us is given different talents to use for the benefit of others. Seek out like minded people for support. You may find your load a little lighter.
    May you have good news for the new year,
    Dotte, from Ontario, Canada.

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    • Thanks so much Dorothy! I am glad that you feel connected to us as a family and have found some recipes that you enjoy! I really appreciate your comment and your advice.Thanks so much Dorothy! I am glad that you feel connected to us as a family and have found some recipes that you enjoy! I really appreciate your comment and your advice. 🙂

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