We have all experienced (and do experience) jealousy in our lives, but what is the root of jealousy?
I have noticed in myself that if ever I find myself comparing my life to that of somebody else it is in times when I am not feeling so secure in myself and the choices that I am making. I am feeling a bit insecure or uncertain of something and am in a slump.
I believe that this is what other people experience when jealous too, even if their feelings of jealousy and/or their motives are unconscious to them.
The root of jealousy is always insecurity and a lack of confidence in one’s self. Jealousy has everything to do with a lack of appreciation for one’s own life and a lack of awareness of one’s blessings. That lack of appreciation and awareness of one’s blessings can also stem from regret, guilt, or dissatisfaction with one’s choices in life as well.
If you find yourself in a jealous mood or are feeling the heat of jealous judgement, condemnation, and/or judgement from another, think about the root of it. Understand that the feelings stem from insecurity, fear, and a lack of self-confidence. Realize that in yourself and ask yourself why you are feeling this way. Maybe you just need to take account of all that you are and all that you have to be grateful for.
Jealousy, attack, and judgement from another also stems from insecurity and a lack of appreciation and/or self-confidence. Know that another person’s jealousy and judgement of you has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with them. It is also helpful to have understanding and compassion for the other person, even if it can be challenging to do so. Love, understanding, and compassion are great healing forces for everyone and any situation.
When you feel judged, attacked, or oppressed by another person, shake it off and do not take it personally. Do not let that negativity rub off on you or make you feel bad about yourself or your life.
This is a life lesson that has presented itself to me many times before. I often get attacked with questions from other people about the way I choose to raise my kids and live my life and I really do feel the insecurity of that other person as a really strong negative energy, even if they don’t recognize it in themself. Why else would they have to question you about your certain lifestyle choices if it didn’t threaten something in themself and their belief system? Why bother interrogating someone about their personal choices and purposely trying to threaten their self-confidence and security?
That is my message for you lovelies today!
P.S. Enjoy every precious moment that you are given, especially with your children! Follow the song of your own heart and don’t let anybody else’s insecurity and lack of self-confidence ever rob you of yours.